One thing about lesbians, when it comes to sex toys- we either really love them or we hate them. I personally wouldn’t mind, but then again, I’m the androgyny-loving, one-woman-at-a-time kind of girl.

However, a rather large number of lesbians I spoke to were rather uncomfortable with the idea of bringing sex toys into the bedroom because they would rather keep their sex ‘natural’.

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‘Using sex toys is not natural and it’s pretty much like having sex with a man, I would imagine,’ said one lesbian, ‘Sara Button’.

‘It’s unhygienic, you need to sterilise it after every person you use it on. That’s really too much of a hassle.’

That’s actually really true.

Take Whitney Mixter from The Real L Word as an example; she had to buy a new sex toy for every girl she slept with, and she sleeps with a lot of women. And when she met an awesome girl and brought her home for the night, she ended up re-using a strap-on she used with another woman just the night before. That’s quite revolting.

Button’s girlfriend, Lisa-Ann Ester feels it puts you in an awkward situation and it’s something you have to worry about when you meet a new girl or you have a one night stand with a stranger and they want to use their toys on you.

‘Also, I find doing it ‘natural’ gives you a better climax. From my experience, girls without toys will hit the spot and it’s actually their own body coming in contact with my body,’ said Ester.

There are the girls with a firm ‘all-natural’ policy, and then there are the girls who don’t mind certain toys.

Laurelie Moore, who identifies as a lipstick lesbian, feels most sex toys actually bring creativity to the bedroom.

‘It’s about how imaginative and innovative you are when it comes to sex. Sex toys don’t necessarily represent a guy, necessarily,’ said Moore.

‘I think it’s silly that some lesbians think that sex toys are a representation of a man.

‘It’s sex, it’s about having fun.’

However, as with a number of lesbians, Moore has trouble getting her head around the concept of a strap-on, though she says she is game to try anything.

‘That hip-thrusting motion isn’t natural to females,’ remarked Moore.

‘I might be offended if my partner asks me to use it on her because the first thought in my head would be, ‘why would you want me to have sex with you like a guy?’

Moore also feels the idea of a strap-on does not appeal to her immediately, especially so because she’s not ‘butch’ but if the experience proves to be well received and mutually beneficial then she certainly wouldn’t turn it down.

‘Come to think of it as well, it frees up my hands to do other stuff, so that’s got to be a lot more exciting!’ laughed Moore.

‘People from the heterosexual community always assume that lesbians in particular always use sex toys because they don’t understand what we do in the bedroom because we don’t have dicks,’ explained Moore.
‘They think we use sex toys to make it kinky and they’re more open to it when they’re watching porn and I guess that’s what offends real lesbians.’

Most lesbians who use or wouldn’t mind using sex toys are fine with the idea of using a strap-on as well as having a strap-on used on them.

Except the butches, of course.

‘I’d use a strap on, I just don’t want it being used on me,’ laughed Wuizzy Jones.

‘I’m cool with the girls keeping vibrators or other toys for themselves too. I don’t think I’ll ever need them for myself though.’

Sex toys can look very much like the real thing and for gives Jones the perfect comeback when men look down on her for being a lesbian.

‘I tell them that the only difference with me being lesbian and them being males is that the have a dick, but me I can pick however long a dick I want, in whatever shape I want, and whatever color I want,’ explained Jones.

‘Plus I have the freedom to change it whenever I get tired of it.’

So there you go, the thoughts of five very different lesbians with very strong opinions on sex-toys.

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